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Growing pains are often referred to as the pains we physically feel when our bodies are going through changes. Growing pains also come with mental changes and anxiety. Anxiety is an inevitable part of human life because it is derived from our fight-or-flight response to danger. Much of the anxiety we experience comes from uncertainty and ambiguity. We often forget to enjoy the time we spend along the way to creating change and adjusting to it. So many of us get caught up in the expectation of how we want something to turn out that giving up seems like an easier option. With change comes anxiety, but you can still learn from your journey and become more resilient in the process. Here are a few tips to help embrace change:


  1. Feed a Growth Mindset

A growth mindset comes with the assumption that your abilities can improve and change over time. This is especially important when embracing change because it could be the tipping point of letting a failure make or break you. Learning from failure can be more rewarding than learning from success. Feed a growth mindset by continuing to have a positive attitude and encouraging acceptance of “gray areas,” or uncertainty.

  1. Keep Expanding Your Knowledge

As humans, we can never be afraid to learn. Challenging your assumptions about the world and the way things are can only aid in the exploration of your beliefs. Learning more about things can be scary, but it can also be a source of wonder that may challenge you to have a more open mind which can help with adjusting to change.

  1. Pay Attention to Your Thoughts

Critical self-talk is among the most detrimental parts of accepting change. As humans, we tend to focus on negativity rather than positivity. Be mindful of how you are speaking to yourself. Try to speak to yourself as you would speak to a dear friend or family member. Gratitude can come in handy when you find yourself being down or hard on yourself. Many times, the first step to making a big change starts with how you talk to yourself, so remember to be kind to yourself and grateful for the opportunities and accomplishments you have had.

  1. Don’t Give Up

As mentioned previously, it can be incredibly easy to give up when we set perfectionist standards for ourselves. Focusing too much on what the outcome is can be damaging to the enjoyment of the process of accepting change. When things get tough, accept that change is going to be hard and remind yourself that you can get through any challenge you come across.


Change and anxiety are linked so closely that it is often difficult to separate them. When we are uncertain about things, it is easy to fall down a spiral of negativity and worry. Instead of focusing on possible negative outcomes, try to find gratitude and positivity in life’s challenges and embrace the change that may ensue because of them.